“Unhappiness is not knowing what we want and killing ourselves to get it.” Don Herold
When you’re constantly feeling the blues and you can’t remember the last time you’ve felt happy and free, then you need to figure out why as soon as possible.
Getting stuck in an unhappy state is obviously not ideal for any sane person as unhappiness can quickly spiral into depression.
Hopefully, it isn’t too late.
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to figure out what’s causing your unhappiness. Or click on this link for a YouTube clip – https://youtu.be/9YBj_XIv7ts
Are you doing what you want to be doing?
Ask yourself this very important question.
If you answer “no,” then what are you doing about it?
Are you taking any steps towards the job or career you want?
Or, do you feel like you’re trapped in a day job you don’t particularly like, but you stay in it because it pays the bills?
For many people, this is a common dilemma.
They know they’re not happy with their current jobs, but they stay in it year in and year out.
They may not like it, but they feel like they have no other choice.
Over a period of time, their day jobs become their comfort zone.
They become afraid of pursuing their passions.
If you’re one of them, then you need to figure out how you can free yourself to pursue your interests and your passions in life.
In the beginning, you probably didn’t have a lot of say in the matter.
Your parents probably didn’t support your dream to become a musician or a professional athlete or an artist.
They’ve probably heard horror stories of people who pursued their passions and ended up hungry and homeless.
Since you’re too afraid to disobey your parents, you do their bidding and work at a job you dislike.
If this story sounds familiar, or if you’re still trapped in this position, then it’s time to do something about it.
Can you not find a way to pursue your passion?
What steps are you taking to free yourself of this trap?
Your answers will hopefully help you see the light, so you can finally start pursuing the career that will make you happy.
Are your thoughts making you unhappy?
You have a say about what goes on in your mind, that is, you have a choice about the kind of thoughts you allow to run through your head.
You can choose to think positively, or you can choose the opposite.
If you choose the latter, then obviously, it’s going to make you unhappy. Of course, you can easily tell yourself to stop thinking negative thoughts. But this is easier said than done.
We can bump our heads all we want, and the negative thoughts will still continue in the background. This is literally why some people go crazy.
They hear voices, and they can’t stop listening to it no matter what they do.
Visualization plays a vital role in overcoming negative thoughts. But it’s also important to be self-aware and to pay attention to your thoughts.
Here’s a trick you can try right now: Every time you catch yourself thinking negatively, tell yourself to stop.
Take a deep breath and imagine your whole body’s coated in oil and the negativity’s sliding off of you.
With the negativity banished from your mind, you can then let your positive thoughts take over.
Are you aiming for perfection?
There are lots of things you can be aiming for – perfection isn’t one of them.
Why? Because when you set perfection as your ultimate goal, you’re inevitably setting yourself up for failure.
Not just any failure, but a catastrophic one at that, especially if you give it your all.
Instead of perfection, aim for something more realistic, like excellence, for instance.
It’s still higher up on the achievement scale, but at least, it’s more attainable.
Not a single one of us is perfect, so why aim for perfection?
Perfection is, to put it bluntly, overrated.
When you aim for perfection, you set a bar so high that when you make a single, tiny mistake, it can cause everything you’ve worked so hard for to crumble.
When you aim for excellence, however, you give yourself a fighting chance to succeed. You’re not going to be scared to go out there and make a fool of yourself because you know your chances of making it are good.
You use your mistakes and your failures as learning experiences.
And the other benefit of aiming for excellence?
You’ve always got some more room to grow!
You can be the best performer at work, in school, or your sport, and still have the opportunity to do an even better job next time.
Once you’ve figured out why you’re unhappy, you’ll be able to move forward and finally be on the path to creating happiness in your life.